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inter-ethnic relationships

談到異國戀，好奇的人就會問到身理構造的差別，我想那應該不是重點。但有些人就會先把女人的婦德先拿出來品頭論足一番，並命名她們為西餐妹。

我說異國戀情不容易，不只要越洋，還要跨越國情，沒有夠用的愛是結不了婚的，婚後很幸福的真的要給他們最大的掌聲。畢竟，非異國戀的婚姻往往已經夠灰頭土臉，再加上個文化差異和語言隔閡....真的很需要愛。我看到我的英籍英文老師，成為台灣女胥後，逢年過節都會帶著禮物陪師母，回南投孝敬丈母娘，並努力學中文，也太感人了，但這樣感人的故事並不多。

我們也不要急著說那些批評西餐妹的人怎麼了。畢竟，很多異國戀都讓我為一些女孩感到心疼，也只能說愛情讓人受盡委屈。也許是種族歧視或是其他原因，亞洲女友在他們旁邊有一種說不出來的渺小和在西方社會看到的那種相愛的夫妻有些不同，他們的關係有一種和諧，如同以弗所書5：33說的：然而你們各人都當愛妻子、如同愛自己一樣．妻子也當敬重他的丈夫。但也許這就是情人與夫妻的差別，什麼都有了，就不需要任何承諾了，我想東西方都一樣。

畢竟我也不是她們，也許那只是表象，也許男人愛在心裡口難開，雖然整個過程也滿像蔡阿嘎的男朋友篇 http://youtu.be/cNoQYEoWfVs

，不過沒那麼台，而是多了一種snobby。

不得不否認的是，西方國家又充斥著一種令人羨慕的氛圍就是賣場裡的超級奶爸，以及爸爸帶孩子踢足球、打棒球的畫面，不免就會覺得嫁給外國人好像不錯的幻覺。

我說要男人愛女人，女人得先定位自己，男人才會被定位。如果，那個男人真的愛妳，他不會是個國王，他會是個愛你的普通男人，且不分國籍的。

聖經故事提到，女人是從男人的肋骨造出來的，為什麼不是腳骨，也不是頭骨。因為神創造的關係是最美的，女人是離男人的心臟最近的地方，不是超越男人的公主或女王，也不是被踩在腳下的奴隸。

有名的異國戀，我想得到的像是小野洋子（Yoko Ono Lennon）和約翰.藍儂（John Lennon），翁山蘇姬（Aung San Suu Kyi）和麥克（Michael Aris）。她們都是很有態度的女人，我也深信，她們的老公是真明白她們的價值，而願意珍愛她們一生一世。

好好愛自己，女人

就會遇到愛你的男人，不管他是哪國人。

Regarding inter-ethnic relationships, some people may be curious something related to sex, and others may criticize white fever.  

In my opinion, it’s not easy for mixed race couple. There are many barriers between culture and language that need much love and patient to overcome. For example, my English teacher, a British, got marriage with Taiwanese. When he is in Taiwan, he do as Taiwanese. Therefore he made effort to learn Chinese and prepared some gifts to visit his mother-in-law with his wife in Chinese festival. But not many girls as fortunate as his wife.

The white fever is a phenomenon in Asia society. However, some eastern girls truly rather degrade themselves to keep their inter-race relationship with snobbish guy, some western girls won’t do that. That’s why these eastern girls are easily be criticized by some people. 

Sometimes we are yearning for the family, father play footy and baseball with children, and kiss wife everyday in west family. Indeed they are happy because wife and husband respect each other as Ephesians 5:33 said ” Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband.”, not because they are Western.

According to the bible, female is made from rib of male that is the place close males’ heart which means in relationship, wife is neither higher over husband as a queen nor lower his feet as a servant.

To love yourself more, Women.

And then you will find the Mr.right who really know you are a treasure. There are some famous inter race relationship example like Yoko Ono Lennon and John Lennon; Aung San Suu Kyi and Michael Aris.